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Stress Makes You Thick

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Pollyanna is back

Even Pollyanna had her down days but it was the love of the people that she showed kindness to that helped her back.

It was me showing love to me that brought me back.

Being authentic to myself. Acknowledging I deserve better and standing up for myself despite the consequences is an empowering feeling.

You maybe thinking “Easy for you to say but I need my job, I need to pay the bills, I have a family support.”

So do I but from previous experience of undervaluing myself and the trauma’s that it brings is just not worth it, my health and well-being is far more valuable and (now) believe if I face life from this stand point the Universe will celebrate with me and not forsake me.

I recently re-read something by Bruce Lipton about the effects of stress on the brain. Thankfully I read this in the middle of a really bad stressful state I had allowed myself in to that reminded me to pull myself up by my own boots straps.

My interpretation of Bruce’s words to myself was “Stop it, stress makes you thick”.

The last two days something has brought a massive national delay to our operations. The majority of the people have spent this time moaning and a groaning while I have sat in an oasis of calm and despite all the issues I don’t seem to have been experiencing them as much as anyone else.

Has my positive thought processes allowed the internet energies find their way in to my connection better? I doubt it …. yet?

While one particular colleague was stomping around using foul language and getting themselves in the ‘Thick state’ and they approached me and asked aren’t you stressed?

“No” I replied. “Stress is a choice and if I find myself getting stressed I’ll just change my thought. It only takes 16 seconds”

“16 seconds?”

“Yeah, in 68 seconds you will have really changed your thoughts”

He walked away spouting “You read too much”

Totally unfazed I replied “No, I don’t read enough”.

5 Years ago before really embracing The Law of Attraction I was a mess. A terrified puddle basically. Now when I get stressed at some point I go “how did I let that happen’. It is so infrequent it will rock me.

At 3am I went back to bed buzzing because I couldn’t sleep, came downstairs, repaired two pairs of pants/trousers that I have been meaning to fix for ages, journaled and read some Liz Gilbert – Big Magic. Ended it on a high note in the book and took myself back of to bed feeling – Big Magic.

Happiness is a habit we can cultivate if we keep practicing and keep reading the right books.

Be Crazy Happy

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I love Pam Grout and today Pam has posted a great new blog on happiness.

Just after I read it I look up at my TV screen and see an older gentleman dressed in a Union Jack suit being interviewed in London.

I thought how long have I been reading because the last time I looked it was our local news.

I am no longer a news person as I create my own reality and don’t want it tarnished with the National doom and gloom daily, read all about how horrible we all are and the world is but I do like a dip in to what’s happening near me.

The man Terry Hutt is in fact local to me but has travelled to London for the immanent birth of our 4th in line to the thrown.

Terry said with joy in his voice that 2 years ago he slept rough for 12 days to see Prince George and he said if he has to wait and sleep rough for another 12 days for 2 or 3 minutes to see the new baby it will be worth it.

Terry is hoping that the birth of the baby will be on the 30th of April as that is his 80th birthday. I too hope it will be on this day to heighten Terry’s joy even more because to me Terry is a legend.

He’s following his bliss and doing what makes him feel happy regardless if others think him crazy.

Maybe we should all take a leaf out of Terry’s book and do what makes us crazily happy !!!

Unexpected Money Gratitude 

   

The other day I read in Pam Grouts blog about someone saying the affirmation “Unexpected money comes to me everyday ”

What have I got to lose I said to myself?

After a very luxurious Valentines weekend away being thoroughly spoilt I didn’t expect to be indulged any more but my partner had other plans and after starting to say the affirmation he lavished me with more gifts on an unplanned shopping trip.
It wasn’t physical money but I silently gave thanks for the unexpected money used to purchase these items.

I’ve read to receive more money be grateful even if it’s a penny and straight after I read about the affirmation I unexpectedly found a 2 pence lurking at the bottom of my bag.

I remembered to be grateful and have saved it as a reminder.

The other day I was having trouble contacting my broadband provider about a message I had received but remembered it said I needed to act before the end of February and as Feb draws to a close I was beginning to get slightly anxious.

Yesterday acknowledging the anxiety, I reminded myself there is a solution to every problem and that anxiety is harmful and to trust that everything will work out. I set a reminder in my calendar to alert me on my arrival home from work that this subject needed addressing.

The alert came and I set about sorting this issue. To cut a not very long story shorter I dealt with two extremely helpful assistants and even got money off my broadband package and free access to their sports TV channels for as long as I am receiving Broadband from them.

You might see that as ‘they do that anyway’ but to me this was unexpected money coming to me because I thought they we’re going to put the cost up.

I am very grateful and very happy and I am definitely going to keep saying the affirmation because I am certainly not losing anything and gaining a lot

 

It’s all a matter of perception 2

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Hands Up !! Maybe it’s not PC but I am a fan of the reality TV show “I’m a Celebrity? Get me out of Here”.

So at 9pm my Partner and I settled down for our daily dose.

I’m not really a fan of other reality TV shows but until recently there was another reality star who left the jungle saying it was hell and the hardest thing they had to do and I know in my pursuit of personal growth for my best interests I shouldn’t judge or get frustrated but another ‘Hands Up’. I found myself getting annoyed with this person wondering where had they been because the show has been transmitted for over a decade and it is common practice that the contestants get transported to the Jungle by helicopter that they also normally have to jump out of said helicopter yet this person couldn’t even take off in the helicopter without a panic attack.

Because of their inability to take the helicopter trip they didn’t have to partake in the challenges their fellow camp mates had too, such as jumping out of said helicopter or Zip Wire in pitch blackness across a deep dark ravine however they incessantly complained how difficult the whole scenario was and after 3 days with no ‘Trails’ stated the infamous “I’m a Celebrity Get Me Out of Here”.

Their negative energy was having an effect on their fellow camp mates and effecting their own energy. A case in point for one of the books I am reading at the moments ‘Penney Peirce’s’ “Intuitive Way” and was probably for the best even though the outcome was probably not the best desired outcome with the TV Programmes producers.

Tonight’s viewing opened with the warning about another camp mates singing prowess. This camper had woken up and immediately started “Singing” then pulled their underpants up to probably what could be an excruciating high level and started dancing about the camp.

Other people commented on this persons incredible energy level and they were obviously having a positive effect on the rest of the group and elevating their energy levels by the expressions on their faces.

At times as more and more people come into the camp there has been slightly heated conversations over the bed situations as some have proper camp beds and other hammocks.

A bit later in the show another camp mate commented on how the high under pants wearing contestant seemed to be having so much fun in their hammock. They replied “Mate its great, you should see how I get to sleep” and promptly went on to demonstrate how they use the floor for purchase and then proceed to create a rocking motion that can send them off to sleep.

That’s when it hit me (once again, hence the part 2). Here are two people in the same reality show. One has jumped out of an aeroplane, partook in ‘Bush Tucker Trials’ and one, none of the latter and one is embracing it and singing and dancing and the other thinks is a living hell and couldn’t take any more proving in point that life etc is – All a Matter of Perception.

We maybe in Hell but we can literally get out of that Hell in 68 seconds (check out Abraham-Hicks) if we concentrate our thoughts on things we are grateful for and if we aren’t careful and don’t monitor our thoughts and our perception of our reality we can place ourselves in Hell.

(Note: Maybe another helpful reference point. The other book I am currently reading = Dr Joe Dispenza “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”)

 

I Feel a shift 2

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A few months ago I wrote the blog post “I Feel a Shift” because I had started to notice a happiness habit-forming despite of all the usual negative media we are bombarded with and asked the question was anyone else seeing too?

I was seeing adverts on TV with a more positive slant. One showing people carrying out Random Acts of Kindness that was having a chain reaction.

Talking of Random Acts of Kindness I watched Evan Almighty again and the weekend and for many of a year I have planned to have everyone do the dance at my funeral before they leave the venue so they leave on a High, as well as play Louis Armstrong’s ‘Wonderful World ‘ and Nina Simone’s ‘Feeling Good’.

A couple of days ago I learnt I must confess from one of my favourite past times … Reading Pam Grouts Blog about women from my country but not county unfortunately or I would shake her hand was requesting her followers retweet the idea that we are seeing more good news and getting the idea we should love our enemy. The the other bit of information gained from the fabulous Ms Grout was that this lady had tweeted about a former anti-Muslimist who went to his local Mosque to apologize. I clicked on the Huff Post article and reading it made my heart want to burst with happiness.

It’s easy to feel happy about things and people we love but not so easy about things we don’t like and people we don’t love (No SxxT Sherlock! I hear you cry) but the other day reading more about Epigenetic’s and how negative thinking can have a harmful effect on our bodies I  knew it was in my best interests to love even my enemy.

I also read recently (I read a hell of a lot, it is my passion and it was probably by Ms Grout  but I have read so much by so many I lose track,) some advise that when someone is annoying you, unpleasant etc say silently inside “Bless You”. Well reading this fitted right in with my loving my enemy help myself philosophy because when someone is unpleasant I just remember to say “Bless You” followed by their name.

Shortly after gaining the information that other people are sharing the, or encouraging the Happiness Habit I watch on TV a British Celebrity discussing the sequence of events that led him to write a book containing short funny poems and until the “Sequence of Events” or the Universe doing what it does best he had never written a poem before in his life and his motive was to make people happy because as he said in his words “There appears to be a lot of not so nice things going on in the world and we seem to forget that there ‘IS’ things to be happy about and we spend so much time worrying about things that aren’t even going to happen, I just wanted to make people smile and have a little bit of happiness”

Well after shouting a loud “Yes” at the TV I felt inspired to write a post about the “obvious growing” shift in happiness and just as I consciously made the decision I saw my phone light up. I’d been tagged in a post by my daughter. When I investigated she had nominated me in something that must be going around on social network, to upload 5 photo’s that make you happy.

Yep there is definitely a Shift happening

Happiness is an Inside Job

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Years ago in Britain there was an advert for some sweets that challenged you not to chew them claiming it was impossible to eat one of the juicy, fruity treats without chewy it.

In Pam Grouts new book E:Cubed part of the first experiment suggests putting on some happy music first thing in the morning. I have done this but not wanting to wake my partner I sneak into the bathroom with my iPhone and some headphones I keep next the bed and dance like a loon to Pharrell Williams “Happy”.

The other day as I drove to work I heard a song on the radio that I hadn’t heard for a long time as the only time I have ever heard it was in the film “Beatlejuice” so I downloaded it to listen to any time I want.

This morning (Saturday) and my partner already gone to work. Instinct made me leap out of bed and play this song as I made the bed.

Like the sweety challenge I defy you to listen to this song and not at least tap your toe.

The other night I watched a program about Happiness in Britain. The prequel to this was they were discussing it on the local evening news and asking people to Tweet etc in their thoughts.

One person tweeted how they find it ridiculous and impossible to be happy and relaid a catalogue of negative issues they had been dealing with while another listed all the things they were grateful for like, family, home etc.

Abraham Hicks says if we give our attention to something for as little as 17 seconds its is already offering a vibration and Law of Attraction kicks in. If you give something your attention for 17 seconds and another within as little as 68 seconds it can show up in your experience.

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So for the person who was obviously focused on negative issues predominately of course they were going to think happiness is ridiculous but they could turn their whole life around in 68 seconds and a happy song is a lot longer than that so we ALL have the opportunity to turn our whole lives around in the time it takes to play one track.

The other day I read something the Dalai Lama said that Happiness is an inside job. I couldn’t agree more but so many of us rely on outside situations to make us happy but when in reality we can create happiness regardless of outside appearances.

So I dare you “Jump in the Line” !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am not rubbish at it !!

I get I’ve got what I’ve got by the quality of my thoughts.

I get that if I don’t like what I’ve got, change my thoughts.

I get that you have to focus on what you do want, not what you don’t want.

I get you have to imagine already having received what you want.

I get that visualization is the key.

And I get that I am rubbish at visualising

Well I thought I was, when the Universe gave me this gift.

 

If you can visualise and orange you can visualise Everything

Thank you Toilet

Happiness is not an outside thing, it’s an inside thing.

Happiness is a choice we make regardless of our circumstances.

Whilst I sat in our car as my partner got fuel I looked up at the variety of beautiful trees opposite and their fantastic equally varied foliage flowing in the wind and I felt very relaxed and grateful. So grateful it was a trigger for me to say thank you for all the things I could think of in that moment I was grateful for.

My eyesight to see this beautiful seen and appreciate the gorgeous summers day, thank you health, thank you mobility, thank you car for enabling us to travel through beautiful countryside and picturesque towns and villages, thank you for all the beautiful people in my life and who I come into contact with and on and on and on.

Shorty after my partner got back in the car. He’s a self employed skilled trades made and had to contact a friend that he was currently helping to renovate his home to say he wouldn’t be able to make it to their house today (Saturday) and how frustrated he knew he’d be.

My partner said he would try to make it today (Saturday) after giving him a day during the working week because he got so demanding that he needed him there like, yesterday to do this job and as it was my partner was unable to do anything on arrival because another trade that was required before my partner could do his work had not completed their work so wasted journey wasted day and as it was my partner was going to try to go at the weekend but he had to complete the job he had to put on hold for his demanding friend and couldn’t see himself achieving both.

My partner began to relay how his ‘friend’ was really annoyed because he needed his toilet downstairs working.

I inquired ‘does he have another toilet?’ And he replied ‘Yes, two but he’s fed up of having to keep walking upstairs!’ – “Seriously?” I replied .

My partner continued to tell me varying tales of his attitude towards people working for him or helping him, including very close relatives. Very rude, ungrateful attitude.

I expressed my personal feeling that this person seems to have lost touch with reality and could do with getting some perspective. He is currently renovating a very large house (with three toilets) yet all he seems to be doing is focusing on the negative and moaning. He has a lot in my eyes, more than most and yet by focusing on all the negatives, what good is it doing him.

We are not wealthy in some ways (obviously I need to work on that area) but I remind myself when I think about our kitchen that is falling apart and our partly completed renovated house (with one toilet, upstairs. Maybe that’s why I am so mobile? So I am grateful I have an upstairs toilet) that I am very lucky. I have a roof over my head. Hot and cold running water. An incredible shower (in our completed bathroom, well I am lucky enough to live with a skilled tradesman in that arena).

(And by the way I seem to like brackets today) so thank you to brackets.

I live in a country that allows me as a women equal freedom to do whatever I choose (including drive, still banned for some women in certain countries along with many other things I could take for granted). I won’t be stoned for marrying a man I love or have acid thrown in my face for dishonouring my family, or be genitally mutilated as a teenager and I have the freedom to write all of the above without being beaten or raped.

As we drove home we passed through a town busy with shoppers and I spotted a young man living in a doorway. He’d be grateful for one toilet. Later after my partner went out to complete his work I took out our gorgeous car (that I have manifested which I envisioned many years ago and my colleagues mocked when I discussed the book I was reading and what is suggested to do. Such as manifest a car, well I am driving in it now baby)

I have been listening to a Jim Rohn video on the YouTube app on my mobile phone whilst commuting, something else I am grateful for. Free use of the internet and social media to access motivational material to grow my mind and in this video Jim says “Work harder of yourself than you do at your job”

The (car) job I was in was the first job I had after many years of bringing up three children. It manifested the day after I thought ‘I could get a job now.’

It wasn’t the greatest job, peeling potatoes and onions in a freezing cold environment. When I thought I would like to move on from that job to a more emotionally sound situation another job manifested. Ten years later as if by accident I have gone from peeling potatoes to very well educated in many skills and in my third managerial role.

I haven’t manifested all my dreams yet but I must have been working ok on myself with all the books etc I have read and listened too.

I digressed but what I was going to say was whilst out driving I came to a junction and waiting for a gap in the traffic I saw a man sat in a wheelchair whilst next to him was, probably his son painting a garage door and I thought after many years working within the care industry (after peeling potatoes) ‘I bet this man would like to go to the toilet with dignity and without the aid of equipment and possibly the help of another human being and our ‘friend’ feels hard done by because he has to walk upstairs to his two other toilets.

He has a gorgeous house etc etc and he his moody with a bad attitude to others and the man I gave ten pounds to in a door way the other evening who was a gift to meet and told me he was so happy because in two weeks he was moving in to his own place that he found after ten weeks living on the streets because after having to leave his last property he couldn’t find a landlord that would accept his beloved dog until now. He was the happiest person I’d met in a long time.

Proving you don’t have to be rich to be happy, proving you don’t have to have a lot to be happy and proving having a lot won’t make you happy.

It’s an inside job and it’s a choice.

There is always something to be grateful for in any given situation.

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Passion for Passions sake

 

The other day I brought all my art materials together inspired by the fact my daughter has kindly given me the project of designing her wedding dress.

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I was pleasantly surprised at some of the little doodles I had found in my many part completed sketchbooks and created an album on Facebook called Art for Arts sake.

Some samples of the things I found

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 I have now made a commitment to do something artistic everyday, however small and even if it is for 5 minutes.

Six months ago I was desperate to get out of paid employment and was searching for ideas of making money and becoming self-employed. An opportunity came in my direction and I started utilising every available second and investing in this project. I was doing this secretly as I knew my partner would not understand. Strangely my always busy partner was becoming less and less busy and quite often home around the same time as me and even before me which was making it impossible to invest time in my secret squirrel project. This was beginning to cause me anxiety and anything that causes me anxiety causes me anxiety because my requisite is to be happy as often as I possibly can.

I decided to accept the situation for what it is and not fight it and instead actively look for the Path of Least resistance.

Art for Art’s sake. Bliss for Bliss sake.

Yesterday I listened to the attached link:

Kim Thuy, wow what a shiny example of Gratitude and Happiness to us all and how to live on the Path of Least Resistance

unusually today my partner is having to stay away over night for work and I have been excited in some ways of what am I going to do with this free time. One thing I knew I wasn’t going to do is pressurize myself into doing something I feel I should be doing. I was going to ‘Let go and Let God’ guide me.

And God/The Universe guided me to the canvasses I have laid out in our conservatory. Canvasses that I painted for Art for Art’s sake but look like they will be hanging in my second daughters flat (apartment).

3 blissful hours flew by like 3 minutes until the light faded and whilst there I listened to productive material on YouTube from my phone and from both audio’s the main thing I picked out was do what you are passionate about. Well I am passionate about art, I am passionate about writing and passionate about self-development and while painting I was stopping occasionally to write inspirational notes I was gaining from the self-development audio’s on to my iPad so I was ticking all my passion boxes at once and living my bliss – good job !!

The last audio I listened to was this, something I aim to live by but no harm in being reminded just what we can be grateful for:

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I then went to wash my brushes and whilst washing my brushes I got a true Eckhart Tolle moment of being here Now. I was totally tuned into the silence of the evening, broken occasionally by the sound of wood pigeons which I love anyway. I could smell the evening air and the feeling of the warm water and the sensation of the brush hairs between my fingers. Right then, being wealthy, being self-employed didn’t matter at all. Right then my life couldn’t get more perfect.

I was doing what I love and loving what I do – I was doing my passion for passion’s sake

My First Abstract

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Art is singing out stronger than writing at the moment. I was thinking about my first abstract and talking to my partner about it but he couldn’t remember it.

I felt sad that I had no record of it as produced it in 1998 and has long since been sold and long before the type of digital media we have today. Then yesterday I was sorting through all my art materials as my daughter has given me the privileged task of designing her wedding dress and for me to work I have to be organised.

Talking of old and new as I thumbed through old sketch books I found some fond felt sketches and instinct said photograph them with my iPad and upload them to my social media sites.

A long time ago I created a Facebook page called Ali P Positive Art but sadly admit have not contributed to it for a very long time but again instinct kicked in and said upload my pictures to their after all it is an art based social media page.

So obligingly I did and the little voice is strong today for it said “Luke I am your father” no it said look in previous work you have uploaded so I did and there was a picture of my first abstract and I still have no idea how it got there (“Hello LOA”) but now I Am Happy not sad.