Why You Can Never Go Back to Zero (But You Can Go to Zero)
Earlier this week I shared my story about hitting reset. But the more I reflected, the more I realized something powerful:
We can never truly go back to zero.
And that’s actually a good thing.
The Levels of Consciousness
During Covid, I came across the idea of the four levels of consciousness:
Poor Me – the victim state. Life happens to me. Unfortunately, this is where most people live, often without realizing it.
By Me – the “push” state. Life happens by Me. Decisions, willpower, discipline. Very masculine energy, and very effective… but it edges out flow.
Through Me – co-creation with the Universe. Things align, synchronicities show up, miracles unfold.
As Me – unity consciousness, the deepest level of alignment.
Looking back, I realized I had spent much of my early life in “Poor Me” — and when I broke free from that, I overcorrected straight into “By Me.”
The hustle. The grind. The do it all myself energy.
And even though I had already experienced glimpses of “Through Me” — those effortless flows where the Universe seemed to be working with me — I would still slide back into old patterns. Subconsciously.
Why Resetting Matters
That’s why choosing to reset matters so much.
When I pause and consciously reset, it’s not about “starting over.” Because the truth is, you can’t. Every experience, every skill, every challenge has shaped you. You bring all of that wisdom forward.
But what you can do is return to zero.
The Power of Going to Zero
In Ho’oponopono, “zero” is the space of infinite possibility. Like a whiteboard wiped clean.
Meditation, prayer, journaling — these are ways of tuning back into zero.
From zero, we receive inspired guidance. We reconnect with our higher purpose. We align with the flow of infinite intelligence.
And because we carry our accumulated knowledge and growth with us, each reset doesn’t take us “back to the beginning.” It actually elevates us to a higher level.
Bringing It All Together
So here’s the paradox:
You can never go back to zero, because you’ll always carry everything you’ve gained.
But you can always go to zero, and from there, rise even higher.
That’s the sweet spot.
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Yeah… a bit scary, I know, but this was literally my face this morning while putting on my face!
I’ll be honest—I was feeling grumpy. These are meant to be my “ME” days, yet somehow they’ve become filled with other people’s stuff, appointments, and obligations.
Have you ever found yourself asking: “Where’s MY time?”
If so, you’re not alone. Drop a TIME in the comments if you’re feeling me right now.
The Gift of a Morning Routine
Years ago, without realizing it, I created my own morning routine. And let me tell you: if I can even do a small part of it, I am a happier bunny.
This morning, even though I had a full day ahead, my inner guidance (what I call Inspired Action) nudged me: “Go back to that training section on Masterminding you started—listen while you get ready.”
Normally, I’ll put on an audiobook or a YouTube video while getting dressed or commuting. But this was different—it was a full-on training. And wow… what my ears absorbed was pure GOLD.
Out came the notes app on my phone. I jotted down the ideas before my ego could convince me they weren’t important.
That’s a little Law of Attraction lesson right there: act on the sponsoring thought before it fades. Inspired ideas are like divine breadcrumbs leading us toward what we’ve asked for.
My Law of Attraction Lightbulb Moment
My love affair with the Law of Attraction began years ago when I first picked up the book The Secret.
That book was my lightbulb moment. It was like a switch flipped, and I finally understood why my life looked the way it did—and how I had the power to change it.
I realized that every “bad day” I was declaring into existence was simply the Law of Attraction serving up more of what I was broadcasting. And every time I dared to imagine a different story—even for a few seconds—I shifted my energy and started attracting better.
That’s why I guard my mornings so fiercely now. They’re my foundation. My reset button. My daily reminder that I get to choose how my life unfolds.
Why This Matters for Business Too
Here’s the thing: carving out time for yourself isn’t just about feeling good. It’s also the energetic foundation for building a business you love.
When women come to me wanting to build an online business, I see the same pattern again and again—they’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and trying to push their way to success. But forcing never works for long.
The businesses that thrive—the ones that feel like freedom, joy, and abundance—are the ones built on alignment.
And alignment starts with how you start your day. It’s the deliberate choice to:
Tune in before tuning out.
Create before consuming.
Take Inspired Action instead of frantic action.
Even 5–10 minutes spent doing something that raises your vibration—whether journaling, listening to a training, or sitting in gratitude—will shift how you show up for your business.
Because when your energy shifts, the clients, opportunities, and income you’ve been asking for can finally find you.
Note It. Do It.
That’s why I always jot down inspired ideas, even if I can’t act on them right away. Writing them down keeps the energy alive.
And it’s the same for business: you don’t have to do it all at once. You just have to capture the inspiration and act when you can.
This is how you move from feeling stuck and overwhelmed to creating a soul-aligned business that actually lights you up.
The Energy of Intention
It’s said that a day started deliberately goes far better than one stumbled into. When we begin with even a few seconds of intention, the energy reverberates through the whole day.
On the flip side, when we oversleep, rush around, stub our toe, get cut off in traffic, and then declare, “Ugh, today’s a bad day”—what do you think the Law of Attraction delivers more of? Exactly.
But here’s the magic: just 17 seconds of focusing on gratitude can raise your vibration and change the trajectory of your entire day—and your business.
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If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, craving more “YOU time,” or struggling to build a business that feels aligned instead of draining, I want to gift you my morning routine—for free.
It’s simple. It’s doable. And it’s designed to raise your vibration, feed your soul, and set you up to attract not only a better day—but also a business that feels like freedom.
How I Went From Chasing to Attracting (and Found My Purpose)
I used to think that owning a brick-and-mortar business meant I had “made it.” On the outside, it looked successful. But the truth? ✨ Longer hours. ✨ Less money. ✨ No freedom.
I was constantly chasing clients, chasing time, chasing money… and the more I chased, the further it all seemed to run.
The Law of Attraction teaches us that what we focus on expands. And all my focus was on stress, lack, and overwhelm. So guess what? That’s exactly what I got.
But here’s the magical part ✨—even while I was drowning in “busy,” women kept showing up in my life asking me for advice on building businesses. At first, I saw it as a distraction. But the Universe had other plans.
One day, after helping a complete stranger with her Facebook page (for free, all day 🤦🏻♀️), I realised something huge: 👉 I actually loved helping women with this more than anything else I was doing.
The Universe was whispering: This is it. This is your path. Follow the energy.
And when I finally leaned into that passion instead of resisting it, everything shifted. I stopped forcing. I stopped chasing. I started attracting.
Because here’s the truth: when you align with what lights you up, you become magnetic. Opportunities, people, ideas, and success all start to flow toward you instead of you running yourself ragged trying to grab them.
Now, my purpose is clear: to inspire women over 40 to align with their passions and create online businesses they love. Because when you wake up excited about what you’re doing, the Law of Attraction works for you in ways you can’t even imagine.
💜 If this resonates, the Universe may be nudging you too. That’s why I created a FREE course to help you attract and build a business and brand you love—without the hustle, overwhelm, or excuses.
✨ The Law of Attraction says you can’t receive what you don’t believe is possible. So here’s your chance to believe bigger.
The Art of Surrendering: Exploring Ho’oponopono as a Path to Inner Peace
Introduction:
In the fast-paced and often chaotic world we live in, finding inner peace can feel like an elusive goal. As we navigate the challenges of daily life, it’s not uncommon to accumulate stress, resentment, and emotional baggage. However, the ancient Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono offers a unique and powerful approach to achieving inner harmony through surrendering and forgiveness.
Understanding Surrender:
Surrendering is not a sign of weakness; rather, it’s a courageous act of releasing control and allowing the natural flow of life to guide us. In the context of Ho’oponopono, surrendering involves letting go of the need to be right, releasing judgments, and accepting responsibility for our own experiences.
In my 5 Step Framework The G.R.E.A.T Formula™️ I talk about responsibility. Sometimes it is something we want to avoid, but it is like trying to drive a car in park if we avoid it but if we take responsibility it is like taking the brakes off. It actually gives us power and that’s why I resonated to Ho’Oponopono so much and studied to become an Advanced Practitioner in this ancient art.
Ho’oponopono: A Brief Overview:
Ho’oponopono, rooted in traditional Hawaiian spirituality, is a profound practice that centres around reconciliation and forgiveness. The word itself can be broken down into two parts: “ho’o,” meaning to make, and “pono,” meaning right. Together, Ho’oponopono can be translated to “to make right.”
At its core, Ho’oponopono is a process of making things right within ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Dr. Ihaleakalá Hew Len, a modern proponent of Ho’oponopono, popularised a simplified version of the practice that involves repeating four powerful phrases: “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.”
The Four Phrases:
1. “I’m sorry”: Acknowledge and take responsibility for the challenges or disharmony present in your life, even if you don’t fully understand their origins.
2. “Please forgive me”: Express a sincere desire for forgiveness, recognizing the need to heal and release the negative energy associated with the situation.
3. “Thank you”: Cultivate gratitude for the opportunity to address and rectify the imbalances in your life. Gratitude has the power to transform our perception and open the door to positive change.
4. “I love you”: Embrace the unconditional love that transcends judgement and separation. This phrase is a recognition of the interconnectedness of all things and the healing power of love.
The Power of Surrender in Ho’oponopono:
Surrender is an integral aspect of Ho’oponopono, as it involves letting go of ego-driven desires, control, and the need to assign blame. By surrendering to the process, individuals open themselves to the transformative power of forgiveness, paving the way for inner peace and healing.
Benefits of Ho’oponopono:
1. **Inner Peace**: Ho’oponopono facilitates the release of internal conflicts, allowing individuals to experience a profound sense of inner peace.
2. **Improved Relationships**: By practising forgiveness and taking responsibility for our experiences, Ho’oponopono can mend and strengthen relationships.
3. **Emotional Healing**: The practice helps individuals heal emotional wounds, liberating them from the burden of past traumas and negative emotions.
4. **Increased Self-Awareness**: Surrendering in Ho’oponopono involves self-reflection, leading to heightened self-awareness and personal growth.
Conclusion:
In 2010 I fully embraced the philosophy of the Law of Attraction and it had a profound effect on me and I still believe there is a place for it but I feel the earth is evolving and Transitioning and it is time to take things to another level.
The Law of Attraction can be used to manifest specific material items and experiences but this methodology is based mainly in physical solitary practices created and carried out by the individual that are focused on singular specific detailed outcomes that can feel like work to manifest but creation does not have to be a solitary practice.
Many people found/find themselves frustrated with the Law of Attraction and feel it doesn’t work. The Law of Attraction is a natural law and is always working but we subconsciously take on programming from society that create blocks in our unconscious and create negative thought processes that create fear, anxiety and doubt that stop our ability to achieve the harmonious lives we desire.
In a world filled with challenges and uncertainties, the ancient wisdom of Ho’oponopono provides a refreshing perspective on surrendering and forgiveness that can release these blocks.
By embracing the power of these four simple phrases, and repeating them as often as possible individuals can embark on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and transformation. The art of surrendering through Ho’oponopono ultimately leads to a more harmonious and fulfilling life, both within ourselves and in our interactions with the world around us.
Prior to my coming into contact with Ho’Oponopono I became aware in my own practices and experiences with The Law of Attraction that things I tried to manifest myself were often hard and often afflicted by what I called “Curveballs” but whenever I surrendered. Consciously or Subconsciously then the Universe (as I like to call it but Dr Hew Len liked to call it Divinity) would manifest something so miraculously amazing and so perfect and beyond my wildest imaginings in such an unbelievably effortless way I knew there was something undoubtedly more than meets the eye to this thing we call Human existence.
Maybe that’s why when I became aware of Ho’Oponopono it resonated to me so much.
It’s in the surrendering we allow the Divinity that’s in us. That is closer than our own breath to bring us inner harmony in a way we can never perceive or create with our physical perspective alone.
Now is the time to move beyond the struggles of Manic Manifesting and move into the art of
“Surrendered Manifesting”
Surrender and allow the UNIVERSE to guide us to what is more perfect for us than anything we can ever imagine …
Now is the time to Surrender and listen to and act upon the Aligned Actions steps whispered to us by our Divine Self. The Highest Embodiment of our Natural Being.
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When I purchased Gabby Bernstein’s book Super Attractor I also purchased for $1:11 (clever Gabby adding an up sell) a set of meditations
Because my Morning Routine had to change in early 2022 due to a change in circumstances I started listening to 2 of these meditations every morning while dressing and one of them is called Morning Mantras and the other Unwavering Faith in the Universe
This change in circumstances was meant to be temporary while I worked on other stuff but the reality was far different than sold on the tin ( ever find that?) Making it far more difficult to work on the projects I had planned
It hasn’t been an easy road to hold unwavering Faith in the Universe but slowly as I see subtle changes I have stronger and stronger Unwavering Faith that everything is working out in my favour.
I am currently listening to and reading another book I first heard of from another author called The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr Benjamin Hardy and maybe it is because of this book I have become more aware of the incremental change that appear before me
In the loalover.club I already have a section based around the Gap but I trust that I will be updating this once I have finished the book from a new fuller awareness about the Gap and in Gain
If you have an Intention, a goal or dream you still Wish Fulfilled a tip I suggest is start Journaling every little win or gain you observe in your daily life and you will start to see how far you have come instead of how far you have to go. It will also bolster Your Unwavering Faith in the Universe and the yet unseen as you get closer and closer to your desired outcome
A few days ago I learnt something amazing about our desires via Regan Hillyer but I will save that for another post so watch this space
Also watch this space for free access to the Law of Attraction Lovers Club (something I Am working on after an Inspired Action the other day).
For a long time, I don’t know why or where from but I desired to be an entrepreneur
For a long time I read biographies of successful people
For a long time I believed being an entrepreneur was something you were born with
For a long time from reading those biographies I felt I was not born with the skill
Then my world changed after writing a simple statement on a card from following and inspired idea and reading it often
That statement was “I Am successfully self employed. Doing what I love and loving what I do”
Then a set of circumstances occurred most miraculously and I manifested my first business …. Effortlessly !!
And when I say effortlessly, with zero work on my part. It came about by a set of synchronistic events
Then I became obsessed by successful people and learning from them … but soon.
Soon I started to get a yucky feeling in my gut when I heard certain aspects they were advising
Work hard now. Play later
You have to work 16 hour plus days and sacrifice time with your family but explain to them what you are doing and why and then help them invest in what you are doing by choosing something you all want to do together when you hit a certain level of success
Take no vacations
No TV watching. That’s time you could be spending on your business. Even better do away with the TV and in some cases they came across as sanctimoniously boasting about their lack of TV home like they were some higher Business mortals for the lack of Netflix watching or even better no device to stream Netflix on
Any speak of hard work or God, how hard “they” work or how hard the work is made me just resonate away from them
Please for the love of gooseberries shut the “F” up about how frickin hard it all is
We are all “self-filling” machines
Self fulfilling inside out what we think, feel, and say
Yeah, it’s hard work because that’s what you “feel” and believe and talk about all the time and voila what ever you try to create is hard work in the process
It’s Law. It cannot be any other way
Have you ever seen those bright light beams they can send up into the sky now. Not the nicest analogy but what they do on the anniversary of 9/11
Now imagine every thought, feeling sensation and words we speak shoot up into the sky like one of those beams attracting to it like a Radio transmitter the exact manifestation of the thing we thought, felt or said
I assume me all know how magnets work?
Now imagine standing in a field innocently like a scarecrow but a magnetic scarecrow and items start resonating to you out of nowhere and start sticking to you. All over you body
If you can perceive this scenario you don’t want to be thinking about elephants
Now look, you only have yourself to blame. I told you not to think about elephants. Only kidding
Everything we think feel and say sends out a frequency signal to attract back the attention of our focus
Good, Bad, Wanted or Unwanted
We are All powerful creators and we can create the lives we have consciously but mostly, we do it unconsciously
Now I want to create a new way of creating businesses we love. An easier way, without hard work
The work is, if you can call it work is to lower our resistance as much as possible to the things we say we want
The type of people I mention above would never advocate what I am saying but I am saying follow your inspired actions, to do the things that bring you joy
If you think you should be working on you dream, goal or business but fancy watching a movie with a loved one. Watch the movie. You are lowering the resistance to the thing you desire making it more able to come to you
Any uncomfortable sensation in your body is telling you, you are out of alignment with the thing you think you should be doing so don’t do it
If a particular person says you must focus on building an email list to have a successful business and it makes sense to you by what they say about their own personal experience so you sit down with every intention to research and do such a thing and it feels like walking through mud but suddenly you get the inspiration to learn about podcasting instead and the thought of that lights you up ….
Do the thing that lights you up instead
That idea is being channelled through you and that’s the true inspiration
That thought, idea, inspiration came from Zero
The true Source of all Inspiration and that’s the idea you should follow
Zero in Ho’Oponopono is the place, space where everything is perfect before we started to take on negative beliefs and programming from the outside world and all it’s woulda, shouda, coulda’s
We can go to zero through practices like gratitude, meditation, walking in nature, enjoying a good meal, laughing with friends and loved ones even sleeping
What we are doing at Zero is lowering the resistance we have to anything we desire and allowing it to come to us easily
No hard work required
Like my story above about getting my first business. I simply wrote a statement on a card and let go of the outcome. The how, the when and the why and got on with other things and it manifested effortlessly
I was holding no resistance to the how and when it came and boy did it come in a way I never anticipated in a format I never envisaged
What this did was, create a Faith in me that other things could come to me effortlessly and in more perfect ways than I ever envisioned and that me getting in the way trying to do things “My” way only limited and slowed down the process
What I didn’t know then was I was subconsciously using Techniques practiced in Ho’Oponopono. I only found this out after feeling an Inspiration (that wouldn’t leave me alone). A strong desire to study to be a Ho’Oponopono Practitioner
Ho’Oponopono made so much, makes so sense to me that I had felt intuitively before
I felt like I should be keeping a planner and to be a good business woman I should schedule in certain tasks and let nothing sway me from these tasks but the in reality ….
I always got swayed and the things that swayed me were far more fun or beneficial than anything I could have produced with my limited perception
Now I trust to do the thing that feels right in the moment and then trust and follow any Inspired Action that pops up via those actions or any other time I get what I call Divine Downloads
History is littered of stories of inventions and hit songs and movie plots and classic manuscripts, masterpiece pieces of art, aeroplanes, cars, phones and the list goes that came about in the weirdest scenarios and sets of synchronicities and effortlessly seemingly out of nowhere and normally taking minutes if not seconds to flow through and come to the artist/creator and usually after they had spent years previously trying to create hit records, blockbuster films and classic manuscripts etc on their own
Take JK Rowling for instance or Oprah Winfrey’s efforts to be in my favourite film “The Color Purple”. Oprah desperately wanted to be in that film and tried everything to no avail and exhausted checked herself into a Health Farm and whilst on a Dreadmill, oh sorry Treadmill she was informed Steven Spielberg was on the phone and he offered her the part she wanted.
She didn’t know how he got the number or even how he knew she was there but what Oprah had done subconsciously was surrender and get out of the way to let the Universe (as I prefer to call it) do it’s thang
She was sending out a vibration of lack, desperation and frustration at not getting the part she so wanted
That’s what I mean by resistance.
We say we want something but then immediately doubt the possibility and think it’s taking to long. Thus setting up resistance aka “Blocking Energy”
So the work is my friend. If you can call it work, is …..
Get out of your own way. Have fun doing the things you love and follow any Inspired Ideas that come through and take the action that seems most aligned and joyous to fulfill that Inspiration and keep it fun.
Don’t get bogged down with the how and when. That creates fear and doubt. The two worst blocking energies to whatever you want
Trying to figure out how or observing it is not here yet only creates more not having the thing you want because that is where you focused attention is going and therefore magnetizing to you “Not having the thing” ~ “Resistance”
Trust that it will come at the perfect time in the perfect way and the irony is, it will probably come more quickly and more miraculously perfect than you could have ever anticipated because you eliminated the Resistance
Quick tip: Do the things you are most passionate about regardless if you were getting paid for them or not. The how it happens is not our business.
Bob Proctor says we should always focus on what we are most Passionate about and nothing else
If you are unsure what makes you tick anymore because you have been to busy doing the things that suck the life force out of you. Via my Passions, fuelled by my first business I created a simple quick easy tool to help you tap into what makes you Unique and explains how you can turn that into an income creating idea to be able to share with the world the gifts you were meant to give and it is called “Fabulous Freedom Passion Finder” and you can find it here at fabfreedom.live
My current Inspired “Passion” Idea is to share how to make businesses you love The Ho’Oponopono Way. The Ho’Oponopono Business Way so for more Ho’Oponopono Business ideas why not head over to the Facebook page called The Ho’Oponopono Business Way
I first started my journey with The Law of Attraction and created many amazing things but felt there was something missing. I then became aware of the Four Levels of Consciousness and Level 2 is very Law of Attraction. Decide what you want and deliberately create it or more commonly known “Manifest It” but the Universe could have so much more in store for you, far beyond your expectations or capacity to believe and you could be cutting yourself off from this by only “Deliberately Creating” with your limited physical view point (Level 2) when I Believe there is another way and another Level. Level 3.
That is the Art of Allowing level. That’s the effortless level I mention above. This is where we surrender and let go and trust that the Universe knows best for us. We let go and allow something even more miraculous to come to us and through us
I don’t align anymore with the Level 2 methodology of if you want a house. Write it down in every minute detail so the Universe knows what to give you. I don’t buy into the premise of “Only giving the Universe wishy washy details creates wishy washy results
We are dealing with Infinite Intelligence here. Infinite Intelligence knows what we “Truly” desire without us ever writing it down and it wants to give us something even more incredible that’s not even on the whiteboard of our desires. It’s completely off the scale
We are Infinite Intelligence and it is Us. It resides within us and it is closer than our own breath. Heck it creates the breath in this physical incarnation. How else could our lungs keep breathing and our hearts keep beating while we sleep. Not to mention all the other millions of bodily functions happening every second of every day without any assistance on our part
Oh PS: This blog post wasn’t written by me. I was just a conduit for the information I felt Inspired to transcribe
I leave it there to let you chew on that thought for a bit but if I have struck a chord and I hope I have remember “Only focus on what you are most Passionate about” The secrets for Freedom lie within
If you haven’t already, please read the quote from Amanda Frances’s book “Rich As Fxxk” above.
Amanda Frances is a very successful multimillionaire yet every day she still has negative thoughts relating to money and everyday she works on those beliefs.
Now I can relate to this because like most people I have grown up with a negative Money Mindset subconsciously picked up from my environment.
One of me earliest memories was coming down stairs when I couldn’t sleep to find my mum doing sums on a tiny notepad in the middle of the night.
This wasn’t going to be the first time I found these notepads or saw her making calculations but I was bemused by why my Mum who didn’t go to school want to do Maths voluntarily?
I now know, many years later. She was trying to balance the books as it were and decipher how on Earth she could make ends meet and pay the bills.
I have sooooo many things to be grateful for, and I Am.
Via The Level 2 of awareness on the Four Levels of consciousness I have manifested many incredible things, experiences and opportunities but financial success was not one of them and I truly believed I would never master my poor money mindset which is a negative self fulfilling prophecy right there of my own creation.
Then I would read a really good money mindset book. Attract money and think I got it sussed and stop doing the positive money mindset stuff and attract lots of circumstances for the money to gradually go away and then as I saw it dwindle “fear and doubt” would set in of how I am going to pay this bill etc and I would reenforce by belief that I couldn’t cure my bad money mindset.
Not aware I was just activating The Law of Expansion.
What you focus on expands so focusing on lack of money expanded and attracted more situations for a lack of money.
I see now I thought mastering your money mindset was a one time event.
When the money came rolling in you had cracked it and bingo. No more crapadoodle money thoughts and the money would increase and keep on rolling in kinda thing.
Wrong !
I think it was Amanda that first introduced me to the concept that “It’s never going to go away and like Zig Ziglar says about bathing I’m going to have to work on it every day.
That’s not such a bad thing.
To me, It was a liberating thing.
It’s liberating to think I’m not a failure and I can improve my money mindset and consistently working on my money mindset is part of the deal I have to live with and it’s normal.
I can honestly say I truly think I am making progress in my way of looking at and thinking about money. So much so I am now picking up on other people’s negativity around money and their subconscious speech around money.
It’s actually a bit of a weird passion of mine of hopefully switching people on to their subconscious negative language and hopefully helping them understand the detrimental effects of things they say innocently that don’t serve them and hopefully help them change their language to something more constructive.
Remember what I said above about The Law of Expansion?
I was actually inspired to write this blog post because the exact opposite happened to me recently.
I was in a room with several people and one of them mentioned a holiday they booked and someone said how expensive holidays are now and they replied “well the money’s gone now and I’ll just have to learn to deal with it” or words to that effect.
I gave them a positive affirmation to say about letting go and trusting more money will come and suddenly it triggered a whole set of negative comments about money from the other occupants of the room.
Whoa ! I was aghast of the spontaneity of this verbal deluge of negativity around money.
Instead of inspiring people it seemed to create this flood gate of ‘not on my watch will you convince me that money is easy to come by” dialogue.
One person said “it always goes out faster than it comes in”.
“Careful. There’s a negative affirmation about money you are creating there” I replied but the negative affirmations around money continued and I said something I never say out loud. I said “sorry guys but I am going to have to take myself out of this conversation because it’s making my energy crash right down” and I opened Amanda’s book on my phone to put me in a more positive mood. Normally I just out myself inside an Energy Bubble.
I admit I was thinking in quite an indigent manner after the conversation ended and thought “Can these people hear themselves? I gave them a positive affirmation around money and pointed out their subconscious negative speech around money and the detriment of that and it only fuelled them to continue more.
Ahh hello Ali. That’s The Law of Expansion right there. You were focusing on not being surrounded by negative money mindset so activated more negative money mindset.
Then I chose to see it as a gift.
In Ho’Oponopono it is suggested to say mentally “Thanks, thanks, thanks, thanks” over and over again when faced with someone who sees negatively and to clean on the situation or think “Thank you, I love You” repeatedly to take responsibility and clean on the negative emotions that are showing up.
Both The Law of Attraction and Ho’Oponopono say ….
Everything is a mirror. There is no “Out there”.
Everything we see is a physical representation of our inner thoughts and feelings.
I chose to see this situation as a gift because it reminded me to be working on my own money mindset and I can see now. Whenever I hear any negative things being said I can choose to see this as a reminder to clean by saying “Thank you. I love you” over and over because we can become complacent or distracted and the cleaning never ends.
We pick up negative thoughts and energies all the time.
Now that you have read this post. Maybe, whenever you catch yourself thinking or speaking negatively or are in an environment where the conversation matter is negative try mentally repeating “Thank you I love you” and know you are cleaning out old negative thought, programming and beliefs.
You may think it is Hogwash but what have you got to loose? I started a simple Gratitude Practice in 2010 (me the former “Most Negative Person in the World) and I didn’t know then how it was going to change my life. I just followed Inspired Action.
Talking of changing beliefs Dr Joe Vitale my Law of Attraction and Ho’Oponopono Mentor who was once homeless and is now a multimillionaire doing what he loves started saying to himself “the more money I spend the more money I receive and you can tell from the above statement how that worked out for him.
Now whenever I “Feel” anxiety “Feelings” around money and say a large purchase I immediately repeat “I will not worry, I let go and trust. I now have more money than I can spend. I always receive more money than I spend.
I admit I only just starting to dabble with this but to maybe encourage you to try it the other day I felt inspired to give to a colleagues raffle and I won a £25 voucher for a meal in a local restaurant.
I didn’t give to receive. I genuinely wanted to help the cancer charity but I didn’t just let the occurrence go. I acknowledged this as evidence of my thought process and beliefs as changing that more money comes in than I spend, then another situation where I felt inspired to give £10 to another colleagues daughter’s charity fund raising event and they said that’s too much. Let me give you some back. But I checked in with myself and thought “No, Inspired Action suggested this amount.” So insisted I kept it to the same amount and moved on with my day.
A couple days later I was having the tyres changed on my car and I was talking to my partner and he went on his phone mid conversation and thought he’s gone into a scroll hole and stopped talking. He then said “I have just sent you £100 towards the tyres as I drive your car more than mine now”.
I use all situations like this as evidence my beliefs are changing and my affirmations are working which only fuels me to do it more.
Hopefully this post will inspire you to try changing your beliefs to “there is always more money coming in than going” out and use any evidence like examples above to validate change and inspire you to do it more and more and activate The Law of Expansion in Your favour.
After all it worked for Joe and it can work for all of us to and I highly recommend a great book by Catherine Ponder “The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity”. just tap on the title to be taken through to grab a copy. In it Catherine has some amazing affirmations around multiplying the money you have spent to come back to you tenfold or even a hundredfold.
Now who doesn’t want some of that?
I believe You reading this now. Are a good person. And the world needs good people to prosper and serve the world with their purpose and prosperity and kind hearts.
Ali xoxo
PS: As a gift to you for reading this post I am giving you my Life Changing Morning Routine. It’s a 5 Step Framework I used to change my life and it includes the Gratitude Practice I mentioned earlier that started the whole ball rolling that makes me wake up happy and I want that for You to so that’s where you can find it at mywakeuphappy.com
Before I sign off officially. If you want to find out what my energy bubble tool is as well as other Law of Attraction Life hacks why not hop over to the Loalovers Club at loalover.club . I hope to see you on the inside where it is my Intention to create the largest community of like minded earth changing movers and shakers 🙂
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I haven’t blogged recently but I am ok with that. This maybe the first time you have read my blog so those words are irrelevant and if you like what you read you may choose to go back through the archive and then it is truly irrelevant if I posted last month or last year or even 5 years ago. In truth I started this blog in 2012 after following “Inspired Action” and I had no idea the journey it would take me on or the person I would become.
In my Podcast The Fab Over Forty Show I created an episode about a perspective I gained after listening to someone else’s podcast that had a long gap
I have recently blogged prior to this one and you may want to go back at read that one first before reading what I have placed below and listen to the beautiful piece of music included
It’s entitled Please, Please, Please … Pause !! Inspired by hearing some sad news and unfortunately manifesting something I felt would happen in this situation but hoped would not
In that blog I posted a piece of music that created a Paradigm shift in me
The content below may do such a thing for you
My hope it or my words will do so
The music reminded me of the message I was trying to convey during my Art Degree Finals but wasn’t actively sharing or was sharing subliminally instead of constructively
My ethos is, it is never too late to do what you love and take time to enjoy life because we never know what tomorrow may bring and thanks to Ho’Oponopono to practice “The Art of Surrender”
Because my Brick n Mortar business (that I was no longer Passionate about) was failing due to the lack of footfall and the effects of covid (or was it?) I took inspiration from the book The Cashflow Quadrant and took a job, an easy job. To pay the bills and take the pressure off my finances with hours that allowed me to build my dream business ….
Or so I thought.
The reality. The hours were not what was sold on the tin with often longer days than anticipated and never knowing from one day to the next what time we are going to finish makes it difficult to plan or schedule appointments etc.
I was also carrying on a bit, my physical business online to create a little extra income to the detriment to the time I had spare to invest in what I truly desire but I recently ditched all that to really focus on what I am purposely led to create
It was that first morning of “Me” time that I saw a quote by the author of the music piece I mentioned and I messaged them to say the reaction it created in me
They messaged they felt our Passions and Purpose work were alignment and would like to collaborate
I was literally driving home the previous day excited at the thought “The Universe abhors a vacuum and just has to fill it” and now I have completely stopped the physical product business I am excited to see how that vacuum will be filled and that happens less than 24 hours later
This is truly the Ho’Oponopono Way of doing things and potentially Business
“Once You Make a Decision The Universe Conspires to Make it Happen” is my favourite quote of all times because it literally does and talking of quotes
I found a very beautiful and very unexpected message in my WhatsApp yesterday afternoon from a colleague who said they found a quote in their phone and thought of me as they felt it was my ethos and they also added an extra message that honestly I did not expect
I feel the real Ali, the Law of Attraction Ali I don’t fully divulge at work but even the filtered down version of me inspired them and they followed Inspired Action to send me this quote and I am following Inspired Action to share it with you, Dear Reader and it may inspire you to look at life differently and live differently
So here goes:
Barely the day started and… it’s already six in the evening.
Barely arrived on Monday and it’s already Friday.
… and the month is already over.
… and the year is almost over.
… and already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed.
… and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.
and we realize it’s too late to go back…
So… Let’s try, despite everything, to enjoy the remaining time…
Let’s keep looking for activities that we like…
Let’s put some color in our grey…
Let’s smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.
And despite everything, we must continue to enjoy with serenity this time we have left.
Let’s try to eliminate the afters…
I’m doing it after…
I’ll say after…
I’ll think about it after…
We leave everything for later like ′′ after ′′ is ours.
Because what we don’t understand is that:
Afterwards, the coffee gets cold…
Afterwards, priorities change…
Afterwards, the charm is broken…
Afterwards, health passes…
Afterwards, the kids grow up…
Afterwards parents get old…
Afterwards, promises are forgotten…
Afterwards, the day becomes the night…
Afterwards life ends…
And then it’s often too late….
So… Let’s leave nothing for later…
Because still waiting, see you later, we can lose the best moments
The best experiences,
Best friends,
The best family…
The day is today…
The moment is now…
We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone what needs to be done right away.
My message at Uni was we are all living busier and busier lives and experience more and more stress. Take time every day even if it is for 5 minutes to feel Gratitude and appreciate a beautiful blue sky, birds singing, children playing, flowers and their colours, the eyesight to see them etc. To literally stop and smell the flowers literally and metaphorically and take a few deep relaxing breaths and experience the perfect moment of NOW …. before it’s to late !!!
“Don’t Die With You Music Still in You” is the quote I heard Wayne Dyer say that Inspired me to start this blog.
Talking of smelling the flowers. I have a breathing technique and others ideas and tools to help live a more peaceful, rewarding life in The Law of Attraction Lovers Club
Every-time we grow we interact with the new and unknown and it can FEEL scary
Don’t be scared
It’s just a sign
A sign we have encountered a new edge
But remember my love …
We are infinite beings with unlimited potential
Once we couldn’t walk talk ride a bike, drive a car, navigate a smartphone
These are just a few finite examples of the things we learned that were once an edge but if our intention is powerful enough our desires true and Passions full we can learn new skills and break through those edges and be inspired to expand passed the next and the next and the next and create a life of Freedom and Joy on our Terms
Listen to Your Heart ❤️ everything you need to know is inside You
Everything will work again if we unplug it, including us
It’s a journey, not a destination and even when you try to trick yourself to think You have reached a destination it may only be the beginning of another journey
What I love about Gabrielle Bernstein the most is something she said in one of her books Super Attractor that has stuck with me and has been especially relevant recently
Someone said to her they felt like a fraud in their profession because they still had a lot of fear and working out lots of personal stuff. How can they help others when they still have hard times and The Gorgeous Gabby replied that they were working on their 7th book and still a head-case (her words)and admitted to a Live audience they had been out of alignment a few months and while they may have their face on books and a mic in their hand they still need constant spiritual support
I loved her honesty and authenticity and when I need spiritual support I make a Beeline for Gabby’s books Super Attractor and The Universe Has Your Back on audiobook and listen on repeat and implement many of her tools
I learnt from Gabby that things that show up that are less than favourable are universal assignments and they will keep coming up until we deal with them
I learnt something similar when I took my Ho’OPonoPono certification before Christmas and I know the most productive times in my life have been when I surrender
I made a decision I wanted to clean and clear some stuff so I wasn’t suppressing these assignments and stay on the Universal Merry Go Round of same ol same ol
What I hadn’t anticipated was the amount of Sxxt that came up when I started to work on cleaning myself and I suddenly boom 🤯 I’m in the similar situation as the Lady above
Instead waking up happy and using my gained knowledge to support others I needed it on myself big time
I actually advocate Social Media Omnipresence for building an online presence and business as do most of the people I follow and respect and they also say consistency is key
Just put your game face on every day and Go, go, go !! Something about this doesn’t resonate with me
I feel authenticity is important and I actually have on my whiteboard “Only market in alignment” and at times my conscious (intellect) was saying post,post,post but if I tried I physically couldn’t and this felt congruent to me NOT to post. It felt aligned with Zero (Super-consciousness)
This morning I was listening to Joe Vitale’s Attractor Factor on my commute and Joe said something as if to validate this point (there are no accidents in the Universe)
When we write an email, a marketing piece, book etc we put our energy into it good and bad and people can FEEL it and we attract or repel customers and clients so I saw this as we could post as much as we want as many times a day in as many places as possible but if there is some negative underlying probably subconscious energy going on as we produce the materials, whatever shape or form it is in we are literally wasting our time taking that Action, Action
While listening to Gabby’s Super Attractor the other day I had a lightbulb
I have been Manic Manfesting and I didn’t even see it
(Manic Manifesting is doing something out of desperation or panic instead of alignment)
Like Gabby says fully in her book and I mention briefly above. We may know all the tools and what to do and even seen fabulous results in deliberate creation and people may see us or come to us as the Guru and we can still get out of alignment
Usually when we least expect it and not even recognise we are doing it There is no out there. Out there is just a reflection of what’s in us and everything we need is in us. We are own Guru’s and the answers are in us … if we only take the time to unplug and tune in but this action, action, action content, content, content consistency is king paradym doesn’t allow much time for unplugging
Recently I asked The Universe a question about long term personal finances and what inherited blocks I had over money subconsciously to clean and I felt intuitively to carry on with my day and I could FEEL the answer would come
The Universe is speaking to us 24/7 but the trouble is we ask and then get to busy to listen (no unplugging)
But this time I felt assured
I had been listening to Mabel Katz’s incredible book “The Easiest Way” repeatedly since waking up in an unexpected bout of Fear and Overwhelm on New Years day
I woke unusually to the prospect of a New Year hot and full of panic I say unusually …..
It used to be the norm as I dreaded the prospect of a New Year because I hated my life so much until I changed my life by implementing one small change so this feeling felt abnormal to me and one I had forgotten I’d even experienced previously
I write and talk about that one small, easy to apply change often but if you haven’t guessed it or come across me speaking about it feel free to ask
I actually FEEL that this old feeling was being dredged up because I had been Cleaning and Clearing old limiting beliefs using Ho’oponopono and set an intention to deal with some old Universal Assignments once and for all
Christie Marie Sheldon calls these “Love Gifts”
Christie says when you want to change and clear out some old junk (beliefs) The Universe brings to the surface the things up you need to clear out as a gift to say here you are this is what you need to clean Incidentally I had been using a lot of Christie Abundance block sessions via Mindvalley as well so it should not have been such a shock
But here I was in fear and overwhelm with the inability so it seemed to “NOT” let it get the better of me and I know more than anyone because I tell people enough about it that when we get in fight or flight all the problem solving hormones we need to find the answers to a problem shoot down to our legs and heart so we can run faster away from our supposed enemy (tiger) and we lose the ability to think rationally so we need a calming tool like breathing
In that new Year’s cold light of day “ahhhhhhh” moment I did manage to catch a few slow breaths and asked the question “What shall I do?” and instantaneously a voice in my head said “Listen to Mabel’s book The Easiest Way and I grabbed an earbud from my bedside cabinet and started there and then and I carried on throughout the day with one earbud in while I went about my business
Every night several things come to bed with me …
A long cold drink … or maybe 2, my Umi bluetooth earbuds, my ipad for reading books and my iphone for my alarm and listening to guided meditations etc and if there is an emergency with my elderly Father or kids etc.
I know some people say you should leave your phone away from Your bed but like old limiting beliefs, unlike what some media articles may lead you to believe, you can Train you brain in new ways and not to jump into social media ASAP in the Am and it’s essential it is close by as I mentioned for personal reasons
It is second nature now NOT to look at social media or emails or alike until later in the day until I have carried out my morning routine despite having it close by because setting my mindset is my main priority especially when it’s getting tripped up
But I digress. So there I am still listening to Mabel, day in day out and I ask the financial question and go about my business, still listening in one ear and then ….
Mabel tells a parable about 3 old men sitting outside a ladies house and she thinks they may be hungry and invites them in. They ask if the gentleman of the house is in and she says no. They say then they can’t come in without him there. Later when her husband comes home and she tells him what happened he says invite them in and they tell her they are “Wealth”, “Success” and “Love” and only one can come in. She needs to ask her husband which one can come into the house?
When she tells her husband he says invite “Success” and she says no let’s invite “Wealth” but her daughter who was listening says no invite “Love” and they decide to listen to their daughter and the woman of the house asks which one is Love as they would like to invite Love into the house One of the Gentleman says I Am Love and stands and starts to walk in to the House and to the ladies surprise the other two get up and start to follow him and she says “you said only one of you could come in” and Love says “If you invited Success or Wealth into your house only one of us could come in but when you invite in Love, Wealth and Success cannot help but follow”
Mabel added “When we do everything for money everything feels difficult. It comes and goes quickly and escapes from our hands. We have to do what we love”
I was doing other things at the time and only half listening. Mabel’s audiobook is only about 90 minutes long and I have heard this parable several times but this time something made me go “Hold, Up”
I stopped what I was doing and relistened and I felt a sensation in my gut so I stopped to tune into my body to see what it was trying to tell me I advocate that now is no better time in History to take what you love and monetise it online and the key is in what you are Passionate about and I still advocate that and in 2021 I was working on many things I am passionate about and felt most aligned to but with my ventures in to Ho’oponopono and my learnings about the three states or Super-Conscious ~ Conscious and Subconscious and setting goals usually comes from the subconscious and old memories and fear based programming running our thinking and the best way was to come from Superconscious and follow Inspired Action.
All that felt completely aligned to me like when I heard “Everything is Energy” and “Successful people have multiple streams of income” both true but now I felt actually more misaligned not having the old underlying fear based patterns driving my goals or any goals at all however I had seen more than enough evidence as the now recently deceased Dr Hew Len said that when you surrender you allow the Universe to give you something more incredible than you could ever believe with your limited imagination and I wanted to surrender my goals to limitless potential
What’s my point to all this ?
When I tuned into my body the penny dropped
There was my answer to my financial questions
I thought I was doing what I was doing out of love and it certainly felt blissful when I was creating it and I was definitely Passionate about it but really underneath what was driving it was not love …
It was the old subconscious fear based limiting belief about money running the show
I certainly was doing what I loved and loving what I do but underneath I was thinking if I have this many clients or sell this much product I will make x£y$z but mentally skimming over these thoughts and definitely not acknowledging their true motives
I had a vision of what I thought I wanted to achieve and saw this as just the next step in my Transformation but in truth I was trying to run away from something I no longer wanted and outgrown and to achieve the thing I wanted to achieve I required “In my eyes” a certain about of passive and recurring income for its fulfilment
The Universe knows when you are trying to run away from something and that energy is not a productive energy. It’s usually desperate and scared and motivated by lack and when you have a motivation of lack you are focused on lack (even if you are not aware of it) and when you are focusing on the lack of something you create more lack of something because your attention is the absence of the thing you desire even though you believe you are focusing on something else like a new car, relationship, career or money
You can use Your intellect (Consciousness) all you want to tell Yourself You are thinking one thing but the Universe knows what you are truly FEELING subconsciously
I FEEL there is more to it running my show. I know I grew up surrounded by a lot of poor money mindset and there is also a lot of ancestral poverty consciousness in my history and I still hear poverty mindset speech all the time so there is a lot of old data as Dr Hew len calls it in my subconscious programming still running, I am sure on repeat and I know “Cleaning” as he also calls it will be a lifelong process but that’s no biggy now I know the Tools
Thankfully using the tools I have been most aligned to I feel things are finally going in the right direction and I also see and FEEL this is because I am entering a new chapter on my Journey and those Transformations are in alignment with some of my intentions I thought about a few months ago
Now I appreciate what looks like a duck and quacks like a duck is not necessarily a duck but a Phoenix in disguise
I set an intention and a whole lot of Synchronistic events occurred which told me it was in alignment with my Higher Purpose and then when some things didn’t manifest in “My” Desired timeline I decided to Trust and Surrender in Divine Timing because when I do it shows up better that I can ever create on my own however because things got a bit scary and yucky I lost my ability to see “This is it. This is the manifestation (Transformation) in process”
As if a thumbs up from the Universe I heard this, this morning by Bob Proctor
“Everything that happens in Your Life is Moving You towards Your Goal”
That word “Everything” really resonated with me and I felt a shift in my being “Everything” is moving us towards our goals even if they look like Sxxt covered in glitter is our greatest gift
Yesterday I FELT I know what ever has been happening and is still happening. When I look back on this I will be so grateful to this period in my life for the lessons and Transformation and twice in that same day I heard personal stories of people who were at Their lowest points and didn’t want to be here, now see those periods as Their greatest gifts. If you know someone who may need to read this post or learn about those publications that help me personally please feel free to share this with them …
And following my own Inspired Action I am launching a new book about being bullied and using The Law of Attraction and Ho’oponopono to overcome being bullied and when I tuned in to my intuition to set the launch date the 14th of February kept coming up and initially I disputed it and when I checked in again and the same date came up I smiled … Of course the international day of Love 💕
I have made it my mission now. Whatever I do, do with love or don’t do it at all
I have unplugged myself, rebooted and cleared out some old software and downloaded a new exciting version. Version 2022.0 😍
Remember If you know someone who may benefit from an unplug or maybe any of these book titles I have mentioned above please feel free to share this with them and my New book The Law of Attraction and Beyond with Ho’oponopono to Beat The Bullies is available now on pre-order. Just tap the title to take a look
Whatever You are doing Have a Fabulously Attractive Day and if it’s not going how you would like remember to take a breath and unplug and say it is all happening for me xoxo
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