I got asked an interesting question this week and it hasn’t left me and I know there are no accidents so it was perfectly placed there by the Universe because my brain was already dabbling with a similar situation
The person was aware and a follower of the Law of Attraction and asked “why is it when I set my goals they don’t work”
Not knowing enough about this persons situation I admitted I can’t answer that question for you but what I can tell you is, which was a subject of a recent blog post which I titled “The Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work” is that we get what we are not what we want if there is a mismatch there and I briefly explained the premise of that post which I recommend reading to get the full story but basically I said if we use affirmations to say “I Am so happy and Grateful I am a millionaire” but your brain doubts that fact and says “no your not, you’re broke you are resonating broke. Not millionaire so you attract (Law of Attraction style) broke .com not rich FM as someone I love and admire calls it.
I found using lofty questions a better way to get around the statements that our brain may not believe and that sometimes in hindsight what seems so uncomfortable and separate from our desire actually has a purpose many years later as I had experienced only the day before when I could see the connection of something that happened 21 years ago and didn’t turn out as I planned only has its true meaning become evident now
When I met this person I was already coming out the other side of a Frustrating situation that made me shout “Fxxxxxxxx” at the top of my voice in a public space.
This is so not me but I actually found the situation very liberating so I did it again a few times with this time, some fist bumping on the desk
I was then able to breath and ask the question what is this situation trying to tell me?
I am far enough down the Personal Development journey to know enough now that bumps in the road are signs that we are a little off course but it can still take me some time in the mist of frustration to get to that point and that is because the brain shuts down to rational thinking in the state of stress or anxiety so we keep wading forward with our muddy thoughts with no possibility of finding the best possible solutions which taking some deep breaths will allow us.
Once I had taken the breaths I honestly didn’t have all the answers of why what was happening was but I had the realisation that because I had decided to Level Up I was finding certain things frustrating because they don’t fit in with my next level desired way of Living so I had Faith this was a sign of movement towards my desired goals were starting to take shape and manifest
From that realisation I had a sense of peace and excitement all at the same time and the synchronicities started to flow again and I told this person how I had come across some of the material that inspired my blog post mentioned previously after seeing a conversation with Dr Michael Beckwith and him saying how we can learn through pain or we can learn through pleasure and they are called Kensho and Setori and one of the most profound, for me sentences I ever heard “Pain Pushes until Passion Pulls”
I also learnt from Dr Michael about the 4 levels of Human Development and number 1 is victim mode ~ why is this happening to me and then level 2 is being done by us which is the mode I keep reverting back to and I aiming to live more in 3 and 4 which he expresses far more eloquently than me but 3 is through us and 4 as us and that if we are in level 2 by us maybe what is meant to be 3 and 4 is different than what we think we should be doing and that is why we bump up against obstacle because what we think we should be doing isn’t actually our purpose
In my frustration mode then breathing state I thought “was the obstacles a sign to go a different path and stop this activity?”
A short time later I had 2 prior engagements that took me away from my then current thinking state and then later a sequence of events happened that made me think “Oh my days, that is what I call a sign and stop being a wingy little B and pull up your Boss Babe pants” It was a clear sign to keep going
That’s also a good example of when things aren’t working out how you want to go, do something completely different and enjoyable and open up the good feeling thought channels again and allow the synchronicities to happen
Later that day a situation that I decided to have Faith working out well did exactly that reminded me to always focus on the Faith F word instead of getting wrapped up in things that make you scream FxxK
Last night someone warned that traffic was bad and I thanked them for the heads up and said looks like I need to get a podcast prepared for the journey then the podcast I chose wouldn’t play and it started to play a different one with Lisa Nichols and Lisa said something that really struck me.
She said when people set a goal they focus on the goal and think it will be easy and then get surprised when they face struggle but just because you set an intention to achieve a goal and then focus on the goal no-one said the journey was going to be easy. What they should teach is to decide on a goal then focus on the journey to get to that goal and do what it takes”
See no accidents and talking of no accidents and as a final note to this blog post. After my own particular struggles and frustrations this week and my refocus on Faith I heard a Tony Robbins quote that said
“Everything Happens for a Reason and a Purpose and it serves You”
I have consumed some incredible content this week and have ended my week on a massive high but what I also learnt. That many of the people I admire and who are massive thought leaders now went through massive struggles and dark nights of the soul and were still going through them when they started to get public acclaim but they just kept on going when the going got tough.
One person said when you go for your goal they say you are crazy and when you achieve success they say you are lucky
They’re not crazy they have the same brain as you and there was definitely no luck involved they just kept showing up regardless what showed up on the journey for them, like an aeroplane that’s of course 98% of the time but eventually it still gets to it’s destination and so can you if you have Faith on the outcome
It might be worth mentioning since my realignment every morning I have been the first here since and the shutters have been down and I have had time to do the things I wanted to undisturbed ~ funny that 😉
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