If You Are not Dead You’re winning

“If You Are Not Dead You Are Winning”


I was in privileged position to Listen to Rachel Hollis be interviewed by Vishen Lakhiani a few days ago and Rachel’s words are still rattling around in my brain ~ people are focusing on 2021 because 2020 was “so terrible” news flash shit happened before 2020 and it will happen in 2021 and beyond, sorry guys ~ we just have to deal with it ~ please be aware I Am paraphrasing because I can’t remember it word for word but I will listen again when it goes Live as a podcast 


The interview also discussed putting our real selfs out there regardless of the results and when I heard her say this I thought thank you for your honesty and maybe it’s time I should voice my opinion 


I am truly sorry for anyone who has lost a loved one or a job or a business during this time but people died and businesses failed and people lost jobs before the virus and maybe we all got a little numb to these everyday occurrences and we needed to be reminded of this fact and become more compassionate but put a label “Global Pandemic” over it and it seems like none of these events ever happened outside this situation and it has been wrapped in a blanket of fear and overwhelm and I am seriously concerned for people’s health and Mindset well-being especially when focused on the end of the Covid rainbow when we get to the other side and shit still happens but people’s mindset are even less able to cope ~ that’s the real tragedy here 


I thankfully had been passionate about personal development decades before the current situation evolved and carry out a morning routine practice that has supported me but I see people who have put skin in the game, or have accepted their cheese has moved and pivoted their personal situations and who also have experienced massive personal loss and disruption are feeling guilty to express they are ok or have succeeded even prospered during this time

Something you don’t know about me ~ I try to stick to a To Do list but often get wildly off course and a long time ago that would have riddled me with guilt and anxiety and negative self talk but these days I am a dichotomy of wanting to be more organised and stick to a list and more recently I am experimenting with surrendering to flow and acting on and tuning in to Intuition and when my copy of Rachel’s book arrived it brought back the interview and I felt an inspiration to write this post however it was quite late in the day and I decided I would post it the next day after transferring it from Evernote where I write everything first in to my blog platform

The original copy ended a few sentences back and was titled something else then but then :I didn’t see this coming happened …..

quick note: acting in flow creates a lot less stress and guilt when I diverge away from the ‘To Do’ list

So one of my facets is I have a weird and wonderful shop when I paint and sell hand carved wooden ducks and I also create bespoke orders and before I had time to transfer this copy a client came into enquire about personalised gift idea

When I took the client details I enquired if they had a daughter by a particular name recognising their’s and they asked what made me ask that and I explained who I was and they used to work with and be friends with my Mother and during my teens I had become close friends with their daughter until families came along etc and we lost touch

The lady then got emotional and apologised and said “I’m sorry, I still get upset when I think about them and it’s been 5 years now. Silly I know” Picking up on my confusion I guessed, they continued “You don’t know XXXX died 5 years ago of cancer”

Whoah ~ I definitely did not see that coming and now we are both moved emotionally

After the lady left the shop and I went to sit at my work station I guess instigated about current events and I thought about this post and how this beautiful kind soul lost their physical life 5 years earlier I literally said out loud “Well, if you are alive your are still Fxxking Winning”

Meaning what ever the situation if you have the luxury of breath in your lungs you are still winning because you can literally change your life by the quality of your next thought, and the next and next and the next

My book has recently arrived so I don’t know the exact contents but the subtitle tells me it’s just the antidote some people need right now so I have dropped the link below to preview it for yourself

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog post 


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